Being Confident Without Being Arrogant

I get asked all the time, how can I be confident around people without appearing arrogant?

Confidence comes from within yourself, being sure of your beliefs and values as well as knowing that you can handle whatever life (and it’s current situations) throw at you.  Confidence also assumes a level of empathy toward other people, without empathy (understanding things from another person’s perspective) it is impossible to be confident.

Arrogance, on the other hand, assumes a lack of empathy (or at the very least, an unwillingness to head the intelligence we gain from having empathy) instead favoring an outward expression of positioning oneself as superior, privileged and superior.

You know from your own personal experiences when someone is being arrogant (always better, always superior in order to fill a void or insecurity in their life) versus someone who is grounded, confident and self-assured.

Having confidence backed by the strength and resolve to act in accordance with your inner beliefs and values *can* sometimes be mistaken for arrogance in some situations, but soon your true purpose, value and strength will overcome any sense of arrogance.

On the other hand, arrogance (by definition not backed by inner strength, but actually often created due to the LACK of self confidence) continually pushes people away and becomes unwrapped (like the layers of an onion) because there is only weakness, falsity and emptiness behind.

When you work on your self confidence rooted in your own inner power you will have the strength and assured feeling that you do not have to be liked by everyone…that first and foremost you must be true to yourself.

Truth is, when you live with confidence, people will be attracted to you without you even trying…any concern over appearing arrogant is gone and you will have found the winning formula for being happy, productive and attractive to others at the same time.